By Families vs. DHR

At this very moment, while our team sits and crafts this message, another family is being forced into turmoil.

Another child is being removed without cause.

Another parent is being handed a list of impossible demands.

Another family is being destroyed in real time.

And the ones doing it? They couldn’t complete half of what they’re forcing you to do.

Let’s Tell the Truth

Behind every DHR checklist is a person. Some of them have never raised a child, never stood in front of a family court judge, never comforted a sobbing child at 3 a.m. Some of them have, but carry unresolved trauma, unchecked bias, or a God complex that gives them permission to ruin homes instead of restore them.

They assign parenting classes, drug tests, therapy sessions, psychological evaluations, supervised visits, and court compliance reviews as if families are factory defects that just need to be corrected.

But here’s the truth: most of them wouldn’t survive the very systems they use to judge you.

This Isn’t About Helping. It’s About Controlling

The system is not designed to restore families. It’s designed to dominate them.

You meet a requirement, they add three more.

You ask a question, they call it resistance.

You speak up, and they label you unstable.

This isn’t about parenting skills. This is about raw, unregulated power that punishes instead of protects.

It’s about telling parents they’re too emotional, too reactive, too loud, while the system itself is full of unchecked emotion, reactivity, and silence where it matters most.

There Are Real Cases of Abuse. But That’s Not What This Is About

We are not ignoring that there are families where intervention is needed. We are not denying that children deserve safety.

But we are demanding a system that can tell the difference between:

• A pattern of abuse
• A parent stepping in to save their child from a dangerous path
• Neglect or cruelty
• Firm, intentional discipline rooted in love

That’s where DHR is failing.
That’s where Houston County has built a reputation on broken homes, not restored ones.

Meanwhile, the Good Parents Suffer.

The ones fighting tooth and nail.
The ones who did everything “right.”
The ones who corrected their child in love and now face criminal charges.
The ones who didn’t mess up at all but still got dragged into court, silenced by safety plans, and separated from their babies.

These parents are not the problem.
They are the casualties of a system that has forgotten its purpose.

They Act Like They Own Our Children

There is a disturbing trend rising across child welfare systems: caseworkers, supervisors, attorneys, and judges acting as if your child is theirs.

They override your choices.

They undermine your authority.

They humiliate your values.

And they never stop to ask: could I pass this test I’m assigning?

Would they pass the mental evaluation they ordered for you?

Would they pass a random drug test, today, under court scrutiny?

Would their homes pass a surprise inspection?

Would they survive being watched, documented, and stripped of their parental rights before they even stepped into court?

We already know the answer. They couldn’t.

So Why Are We Still Playing Along?

If they can’t walk the walk, why do they get to write the rules?

It’s time to say what everyone’s thinking. You don’t get to destroy families from a seat you never earned. You don’t get to decide who’s fit when you couldn’t survive the standards you set.

We Speak For the Families Still Fighting

For the parent on antidepressants after a wrongful removal.

For the grandparent shut out of kinship care.

For the dad who never missed a visit but still isn’t reunified.

For the mom who disciplines in love and was told that makes her dangerous.

And for the thousands more being funneled through a system where DHR plays the hand of God.

So What Now?

We speak.

We share.

We document.

And we dare to say: you first.

📢 Call to Action

• Share your story
• Tag your truth
• Ask your caseworker. Seriously. Could they complete what they demand of you?

Because until this system holds itself to the same standard it demands from families, it has no moral ground to stand on.

This is our line in the sand.

We are not afraid of the truth.

And we are not afraid of them.